*FTWM = Full Time Working Mom SAHM = Stay At Home Mom*
For my female friends, a decision to take unpaid leave is very noble. Even, if I say I want to resign, they would say, it’s the best thing ever happen to a working mother, resigning.
While for my male friends, this is a darn stupid decision ever made. Furthermore, in this economic condition. A friend (male) of mine even had his wife works about 400km away just recently. They said, so sayang cos I am already working with a big company, where almost everyone has dream to work with. Yeke? Entah, but before I work with the company, memang I saw it was a very the hebatlah. And its engineers must be very the kaya. But, the reality is sungguh pathetic 😀
My maternity leave tak boleh kira sangat. That time, Fahry was still in the SCN. And when he bought home pun he was still soooo sangat small.
At the end of the maternity I went to the office to see my boss and submit the application. BTW sangat thank you to the company. Mommies works with this company (especially our OPU) memang sangat lucky, cos the bosses & the company itself practice ‘balance living’-work&personal. We have no problem expressing breastmilk in the office (remember my BF room?). And I never got remark like “orang lain pun ada anak jugak”, or such, when I put my children as a priority. Even, when Hafiy fall sick last year, I asked for a day leave to take care of him but my boss said “Tak payahlah. You balik je anytime ada emergency kat rumah”.
The first few week, oh I must admit it was sooo challenging.
Abiy asked, “Cemana duk rumah? Seronok?”
I answered, “Hmm… Kalau kerja, kita stress dengan kerja, balik rumah tengok anak, hilang stress. Ini, 24/7 mengadap muka dia je. ”
(Faham-faham je lah kan)
But now everything has paid.
Even if I am not an efficient SAHM like some mothers who have very nice activities with their kids, and even able to conduct ‘homeschool’, but I think I am ‘a pinch’ of them lah, LOL.
One thing for sure, I have full control over my kiddies. Now less TV for Hafiy, except for my programs 😀 I can’t dive without Detective Conan, Air Crash Investigation and Spongebob Squarepants. Hehe. He even gets less view PHDC cos I can’t stand the cartoon. Tak paham mak. I prefer watching TV together so that I can talk to him about what we are watching rather than letting him stunned by any TV programs. Kat PHDC tu Word World je mak boleh masuk.
Just a sneak peek of our daily routine…
Every morning Hafiy will follow Bibik to throw the garbage. Of course into the big garbage container in front of our house. He got it “Pahh..” several weeks ago. We told him that ‘sampah’ is belong to the ‘bakul sampah’. Everytime he ‘buat sampah’, when I told him to buang it dalam bekas sampah, he’ll do it immediately.
But yes, sometimes young kids can’t accept so much words of command. A command should be precise and clear. If I say “Hafiy, sampah ni buang dalam bakul sampah”, and another day “Hafiy buang sampah ni dalam bakul sampah kat bilik Bibik”.. for the second command, he’ll bring the sampah into the Bibik’s room and leave it there.
After buang sampah, he’ll follow Bibik jemur kain. (Best sungguh Mommynya.. semua remote control). Budak baya ni usually akan stick to the routine. Hafiy akan tertunggu-tunggu time buang sampah dan jemur kain. Lepas tu kupas bawang pulak.
And today he practised his jemur kain skill. 
Now I’m getting used to be a SAHM. Even if takde la buat apa sangat, tapi rasa seronok duk bersama anak-anak… Yang penting boleh control their activities. Tak adalah seharian melepak depan TV je. And yang penting Fahry dapat susu yang fresh.
Petang-petang wajib keluar main ball with Aqif and Nazhan. Nakgi playground, we don’t have the membership. Malas nak continue since dah nak pindah….
But to me being a SAHM is a big challenge actually. When a FTWM with limited time can ‘educate’ her children very well with manners, keagamaan, academic, and everything… I should be better since my children is under my custodian 24/7. If I fail to do it, memang sangat LOSER kan. Rugi je jadi SAHM. Dah laaaa takde gajiiiii.
Gambatte Mommy!!!
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