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How do and how should we measure excellence? Especially for little kids like ours.
At school, we have so-called standard measurement, by how many A’s we collect in exams. The more the better.
But somehow, after school, we sometimes hear about something similar to this:
“I took engineering but ending up working as a business planner”
“I have a degree but doing what an SPM holder does”
“I hold the first class honor degree but my colleague with third class is doing better than me”
“I got straight As in my SPM but my friends with no As now is studying overseas”
“She got 2nd grade in SPM but now she hold Datuk title and becomes a millionaire!”
Rezeki is another story lah. Then, kalau semua benda pun ‘dah rezeki’ tak payahle susah2 usaha ye dak.
Every parent want their kids to excel in their life. But what we forget is we always compare with other kids, rather than put our own target.
It is like when we go to 2 different schools, school XXX has 10 subjects and school ZZZ has 20 subjects. Even if we get 10As at school ZZZ, but we can’t be compared with 10As student from school XXX, because we have 10Bs while they have no Bs.
When our child can’t read at 4 while others are reading at 2, it never pictures that our child is not genius or the other are super geniuses. I think ‘genius’ is subjective. Some people define genius as ‘able to read at 2’ while some define as ‘can do things beyond his age’ and some ‘thinking differently’ and etc. But I think every parent should have our own definition of ‘genius’ so that we can develop our children to be geniuses in their very unique ways.
But I think for those who are very serious is making geniuses, they don’t even care about what and how geniuses should be, but how much they do to make geniuses born and alive! And they are willing to share what they do so that their children become geniuses, and all children also get opportunities to be geniuses, instead of competing among each other “Who’s the ‘geniusest’ child?”
And the best is, in preparing our children to be a khalifah, we’ll do the best we could so that they’ll be able to grab all good opportunities to excel and able to use their abilities to manipulate everything and finally produce end products those are beneficial to everyone in this world. The best is not comparing them with other genius kids by “Look at HHH, he’s 3 and he can read but you’re playing all the time”, but “What HHH’s mother does to make HHH read at age 3? I should learn from her”.
But every mother knows what best for her children. And what best for herself. Not everybody suit with the same sized clothes.
While working hard in creating geniuses, but should not forget that there’s no point if we only can have children who are as clever as Einstein but not doing good deeds for their nation but instead doing it for MONEY.
Being excellent is a process, started before the conception until the day they die. Along the way, there’s works to do and cards to play. No matter how good a child is doing at his early ages or how bad he is doing, it depends on the follow up given by the parents. Remember the ‘genius boy Hanafi’ that shaken the media some years ago, when he could read at 2, maybe? What happen to him now? Is he an engineer? Unfortunately he’s far from even graduated.
And Sufiah, the you-know-who. What happens to her? OMG…
But it’s not the ‘genius default’ or ‘price of being genius’ or ‘don’t be too genius or you’ll end up like them’. Excellent is a process, and if you bake a cake, even if you choose the best flour, the best sugar, the best butter, but if you make mistake when mixing them, they won’t be a nice cake. And even if you use not so good flour, butter and everything, and you’re very carefully mixing, adding, pouring and baking it, possible for it to be a very nice cake. Make sense?
After all, I believe that geniuses are made.
Eventho sometimes they are borne 🙂
How about you? How do you measure excellence?
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