Before I Breastfeed…

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before my baby was born, i always love to share my dream with other moms : to breastfeed my baby. the most popular responds i got was like…

“tak payahla breastfeed, susah. leceh nak kena pam2, nak handle lagi leceh”
“ko keje, mana boleh nak breastfeed”
“mengarut je. ko kan kene outstation selalu. nak wat cemana tu?”
“susah nanti ko nak cari babysitter/nursery yg nak jaga budak breastfeed”
“kalo susu ko ada, bole la nak breastfeed”
dan sebagainya.

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i was yet a Mommy that time, so i left them with no comment. but in my head, i want to prove to them that despite the ‘good excuses’ [since they used the reasons above to answer why don’t they breastfeed], i can manage to breastfeed my son as long as i want.

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[but i’m considered lucky cos those persons are not my mom, nor my MIL, nor my grannies, nor my aunties, nor my sisters. my family give me fully support to breastfeed, even if none of them ever did this.]

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i guess nowadays, we can find working-nursing-moms everywhere. i don’t understand why there’s still such idea that “tak bole menyusu sebab kerja..”. yeah maybe out there some mommies really don’t know about this but please don’t say “mana bole bf, kan kerja..” to others. kalo ye pun cakapla “bole ker bf & kerja?” bila orang tanye, ye dak?

& if you malas to breastfeed, malas to handle breastmilk, malas to pump, etc. let it be your personal problem sudahlah. don’t drag everybody to join your kemalasan tu. i don’t mind if anybody doesn’t want to breastfeed sebab malas, but don’t promote it to others. if you don’t want to give your baby your milk, don’t ask others to. if you think you baby don’t deserve your milk, other babies deserve. you think all moms are malas like you ka?

another excuse i really don’t like is about the babysitter or nursery. if nursery A can’t, go to nursery B lah. if both can’t, find other nursery la… okay2, i don’t wanna comment lebih2, it’s their choice, but to me, my children’s’ welfare is 100% on me. if to find a right place to put my kids pun i fail, how about their future? will i succumb to ‘susahla… susahla..’ then my kids don’t get what they deserve for. i took unpaid leave, and willing to send my baby nun jauh ke Permyjaya,& plan to hire a maid just because i want him to get the full richness of my breastmilk.

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with my job, i have to go outstation. to attend meetings, training, etc. most probably i have to go to KL, KK & terengganu in regular basis. but it’s not an excuse for me to stop giving my baby BM. if there’s a will there’s a way rite. my very first outstation will be in the next fornite [hopefully], to seremban. i’m gonna bring Hafiy with me & i asked ma friend, Bolly [she stays at KL] to come with me. if i’m going to places that i can’t bring him together [offshore or barge, probably] i should prepare a bank of frozen milk for him.

i don’t mind if anyone wanna give her baby FM because ‘susu tak ada’ but pleaaseeee don’t use it as an advise to newly-planned-to-breastfeed mommies. i never state in my mind to ‘nak breastfeed kalo susu ada’ or sewaktu dgnnya. i said to myself, i want to breastfeed & my susu MUST ada. even i don’t ever2 prepare any tin of FM at home even if for ’emergency’ because i believe that my body won’t let my boy die for starving [mati kebuluran?].

i know many moms fail to breastfeed because of the feeling ‘takut baby lapar susu xde’, then they feed them FM. end up, rely to FM forever. [some are successful to cont. bf & say well done! to ’em] being me, even if my breast full only on the 4th day, even if i don’t feel like producing, even if my baby cried, but i told myself that ‘he’s not hungry. he just need my hug because he’s afraid of this new, big, open world’. alhamdulillah my son is still survive, with no jaundice and gains very healthy weight. i think he never dies because of my little milk la.

i pray that other moms or moms-to-be who plan to breastfeed, able to find the right persons & right resources those can motivate them and help them to breastfeed successfully. amiin~

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14 responses to “Before I Breastfeed…”

  1. Mr. and Mrs. Mokhsin Avatar
    Mr. and Mrs. Mokhsin

    alom..those are among the excuses la…if I don’t condemn you (those who didn’t or couldn’t BF)only because u don’t BF please don’t discourage those who are willing to BF their babies…y aa..? some people still think that BF ni cam kekampungan…like makcik2…y aa…?BM is the best ever existed milk in the whole wide world…y there are still some people who think like that aa…?

  2. Fid Avatar
    Fid

    Hidup susu ibu!….
    saya mmg sokong…hehehehee

    sebenarnya kalau ttg BF ni dah tak tau nak komen apa sbb kalau koem rasa mcm bleh jadi satu entry le plak….
    hahaaaaa

  3. Jun :) Avatar
    Jun 🙂

    salam again mami hafiy..heehee..
    akak mmg sokong 100%..i’m a bit lucky coz x keje..fulltime..so, my kids mmg BR til 2 yrs +…sekurang2nyer 2 thn..all of em…byk kebaikan..rasanya, rami yg tau tu…so, try la BF selama yg boleh..good for baby n mummy….proven! insyaallah!

  4. mami hafiy Avatar
    mami hafiy

    kak jaa,
    i think not many aware about the goodness of BM. sbb apa, tgkla dlm iklan tv duk promo susu fomula budak jd bijak, etc. susu mahal2 lagi.. bagi breastmilk mcm orang takde duit je. haha.

    kak fid,
    sila, sila. silakan menulis entry anda di sini. hehehe.

    benda2 BF ni bole wat naik minyak ye tak, akak? 😉

    kak jun,
    salam kak jun…
    bertuahnya badan…. hehe. bestnya xkeje kan, xyah pam2.
    sy ms cuti berat menten je 46-47kg, skg dah naik 48kg! hahahaha. kne sumbat byk2 lg nih hihi.

  5. erynn sr. Avatar
    erynn sr.

    mati kebuluran = die of starvation

    mengapa lately byk betul entry pasal BF ni? ada kene sound/kutuk/marah ke lately?

    oh ya. just before i took my maternity leave,share2 la dgn kakak2 kat opis my intention to fully BF n pam dekat opis dsb. nak masuk freezer, store ebm dlm taperware kecik2 isi dadih. respon deorg? buat muke pelik.nti suruh aje pengasuh kasik susu tepung, balik keje baru la BF. gelak gelak gelak. jgn sampai org lain termkn sbb duk dlm bekas dadih! apadaa …

  6. Ibu Emir Avatar
    Ibu Emir

    ade mothers macam tu, along u met the wron community!! pity u.. even though im half-half milkbar for my son, but honestly i could see a lot of gap between those baby FM and bF baby. so continue what u think is the best for ur Hafiy

  7. mami hafiy Avatar
    mami hafiy

    erynn sr.,
    takdelah. xde sapa kutuk/sound. actualy nk sound somebody in ‘beralas’ way. haha.

    saya selalu membuat joke dgn stok susu dalam freezer bila ada kawan2 datang. “nak minum apa? susu ada byk dalam freezer tu” “susu apa?” “susu aku. hahhahaha”.

    ibu emir,
    syukurla i met them after i made a firm decision. kalo masa tu tgh berteka-teki lagi tu, harus skg dah kering susu gamaknya.. huhuhu.

  8. kasutVincci Avatar
    kasutVincci

    lina. untung hafiy masih minum susu mami walo pun mami dah start keje. Lg pun untung tau, tak payah spend money utk beli susu. Mahal lak tu.Tp tetap tak blh nak lawan khasiat susu ibu.;)

  9. Fid Avatar
    Fid

    salam

    nak nyampuk sikit tang bab simpan ebm dlm bekas dadih….

    kalau ada org termakan pun should be no problemo….
    cuma tak de le macam dadih mcm air milo dibekukan je laaaa…
    lg satu depa2 tu sure nak kata kalau org lain termkn kalu jd anak susuan..sorry naik lorry ..syarat nak jd anak susuan kena umor 2 thn ke bwh..yg dah tua2 beranak pinak bagai tak de punya nak jatuh hukum….

    yihhhaaaa sudah 2 thn 5 bln yihhaaa(umur akif hafiy)
    sejak akhir2 ni makin kerap menyusu la plak….
    mmm..

    apa2 pun happy BF mummy hafiy and hafiy!

  10. noorina Avatar
    noorina

    hmm so kak along kena la support/motivate saya ye. saya ni dlm berteka teki lg nak BF ke tak 🙁
    Tp azhar suh BF sbb dia kata takyah bazir2 duit beli susu tin…

  11. aida Avatar
    aida

    yup, semua org reluctant when i want to breastfeed my child. siap masa pantang kat kampung, ada org tanya.. kenapa tak ajar tin, kan nak gi kerja. lepas tu siap promote FM ‘goodness’. masa tu saya diam je.. my MIL who breastfeeds all her kids pun senyap. but then when the neighbour goes back to her home, i asked my MIL opinion. she supported me to continue breastfeed.

    actually mama hafiy, i feel stupid since this is my 3rd child and successfully breastfeed. no 1 & no 2 tak lama sebab lack of knowledge (based on your previous posting). bila i sibuk bertanya camna nak bfeed, ramai cakap i ni bodoh. tapi semangat nak bfeed tu mmg kental. that’s why i learn everything back when i was pregnant with my 3rd child. siap call kawan-kawan yang berjaya, tanya opinion suami. kat hosp dok call lactation consultant..

    huh, some experience kan?

  12. mami hafiy Avatar
    mami hafiy

    kak KV,
    jimat beli susu anak tp pulun beli ‘susu’ utk mak plak. hua hua hua.

    kak fid,
    hahaha. tingat plak kes org risau suami terminum susu dia kot ‘terpaksa’ becerai sal jd anak susuan. isk isk isk.

    jom2 para mummy hafiy kita hasilkan hafiy yg nyusu lama!!!

    rina,
    alah, toksah piki2 lagi. jom BF! susu tin lagi susah tau nak kene bancuh2, masak air pe sumer. BF selak jer! hehe.

    aida,
    tu lah. susah nk jumpa org yg betul kan. sy dlu pon org2 siap ‘ajar’ lg cemana nk campur susu bila dah keje. hehe. tp wat dunno je la.

    alhamdulillah kita2 dpt bf walaupun start late, better late than never kan?

    😉

    good luck all!

  13. kombat Avatar
    kombat

    mcm-mcm cerita pasal breastfeeding ni 🙂 suka baca entry-entry gini 😉

    happy breastfeeding!

  14. mami hafiy Avatar
    mami hafiy

    kombat,

    haha. saja sharing2.

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