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One of the thing I used to worry about was, having a child who likes to throw tantrum in public, especially at the shopping complex.
It was happened once, when we went to MPH, when Hafiy was about 11 month old. He was attracted to the sets of poster color. He even grabbed some of the container. I told him that I’m not gonna pay for those, please put them back. He screamed his lung out and makes the people around us turned into smiling face looking at me ‘dealing’ with a new toddler who was just learn to walk.
I thought that we have to bring him to such places often, so that he could learn how to get rid of his jakun-ness.
Even, at home I taught him to “Please respect others’ belongings. If it’s not yours and it has no importance to you, please don’t even touch it”.
Nevertheless, I can’t say anything about the result, cos we’re still on our long journey, and I cross my fingers to see a POSITIVE RESULT.
As yet, I observed that he undergoes some phases,
Phase I : Grabs things he likes, refuses to let them go, and scream if insisted.
Phase II : Touches and grabs all the things, makes sure they fall onto the floor, but won’t do it anymore after some ‘reminder’.
Phase III : Grabs things and puts them in our shopping basket/trolley. He even looks for any empty basket/trolley to put the goods in.
Phase IV : Touches and points to any object he knows and says something about it (in his language which is hardly understood).
Phase V : Yet to experienced.
He’s in his Phase IV. Every phase is challenging in its way. In phase IV, I have to closely watch him and run after him everytime he sees something new. Some say we should trust our kids and let them think independently, but to me kids are kids. They are not mature enough to have a reasonable thinking like adult, and they are not little adults! So I have to watch any of them closely, remind about the same thing over and over again, until I am confident enough to let them being fully independence.
Alhamdulillah, so far everything is under control.
I use my maternal instinct to parent my children. One thing I always hold is ‘Never Say Anything Bad About Your Children’. I believe that every child was ‘patented’ to meet the parents’ need and condition. I have a very clingy boy named Hafiy, and I’m happy with it. Even if I used to talk to my friend about “Hafiy is so clingy that I have to run to save my world, or else I won’t have time to eat”, but I never said “I’m so depress because …, I’m stress because…, My baby is not a good …, yadayada (Replace …. with the sentence in “”)”. I AM COMPLETELY HAPPY!
(Please don’t get depressed by your own children cos they didn’t come here by their own. Got what I mean?).
I’m always positive about my children’s development. Even if sometimes I can’t help myself to be rush to see changes in them, but eventually I knew that it takes them some times to learn and practice new things.
Always tell the kids that I love them and proud of them.
Eventually I realised that setting objective is really important. (I lost my life objective for years and now I’m so glad finally I have it! ;)) It quite useful in parenting, at least for me, when we set some significant objectives, it not only makes us strive to achieve them, but also thinking about the dreams makes us always alert and pray or at least speak about it to ourselves from time to time.
I used to have a dream to see Hafiy ‘transfers’ his ‘on paper’ knowledge into the real world. And he did it by pointing out some objects he finds in his book, when we go out shopping, such as “buah”, “apple”, “banana”, etc. (Even if other kids at his age achieve this spontaneously but to me it is one great achievement).
I can’t wait to bring Hafiy to supermarket again, and witness him venturing the next phase. Ngeee~~~
Fahry makes faces. He is such a cute baby, isn’t he?
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