Hafiy : Tarik tangan dia!
Fahry : Elakk!!!
Hafiy : Tonyoh hidung dia!
Fahry : Tepis!
Finally…
Fahry : OK la…. surrender laaaa!
It’s a true bliss looking at my kids playing together. Hafiy always likes to play with Fahry, he shows his excitement everytime I bring Fahry down from his cot. But I never allow them to be ‘out-of-my-hand’ cos Hafiy’s still can’t control his limb. Nak usap jadi lepuk! Hm.. but he still can’t accept when I BF Fahry. Kadang2 buat2 merajuk tak mau rapat2 dengan kami. Hey, you should feel OK cos Fahry gets the second hand one laaaaaaaa….
Memang penat (OK finally I’m willing to admit) taking care of 2 boys with 1 year gap. We put Fahry in babycot cos he’s too small for co-sleeping. Furthermore he’s premature so he shouldn’t mix with us lah. But we can’t be quarantined since Hafiy still needs my breastmilk (BM). Furthermore, my current job (cuti2 pun ada keje tau!) requires me to spend lots and lots of my time.
But alhamdulillah we have a maid, so for housechores, I can outsource aje.
SInce Hafiy is only 16 month, still not talking… if bebel2 kat dia pun dia buat dunno je. OK maybe he understands but he doesn’t know how to reply. I have so many expectation on him. No, not what you’re thinking… I just want him to behave je. He likes to be carried since he was a baby, until now. So cemana tu. Lucky that Fahry spends his time sleeping, tu pun kadang2 mengada jugak but I bolayan je kat dia. HaHaHa. Cemana nak carry dua-dua….
OK this is special for Salwa cos I promise her to share ‘the technique’. I am using that famous Shichida technique on Hafiy (and Fahry too) – The 5 Minutes Suggestion Method. The one yang cakap-cakap time tido-tido ayam tu.
I tried it for the first time, months ago. Masa tu I wasn’t confident sangat it will work. Ye la, apa kes cakap2 dengan anak time dia tido lepas tu expect something kan. But I was wrong lah! I think 3-4 days later, he just be like what I’d wish for! Terperanjat!
This is how I’m doing it:
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You know la the time, masa dia tengah tidur2 ayam. Usually I do it masa dia tengah pejam & mulut still nyot2 ememnya 😉
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Whisper your words softly to your child’s ears.
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Tell him that you love him.
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Praise him.
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Be specific. If you say "You are a good boy" it is general. Specific is "You are a good boy who likes to help Mama in the kitchen with tumbuk bawang, etc…."
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Be persistent. Don’t expect it will work after the first time.
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Bersungguh-sungguh & yakin. Walaupun rasa tak berapa konfiden, yakin sajalah.
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Say your hope on him. Usually I would say "Tolong Mommy OK, you need to help me… kesian Mommy tau.." LOL
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Be patient. Don’t expect he would change tomorrow.
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Leave it to Him for the result (tawakal).
Even if I’m not doing it everynight (especially when Hafiy sleeps early or sleeps with Bibik) but if I have something I can’t control, like when I told him many times to not hitting Fahry, he wasn’t ‘listen’, or when I tell him many times to do this or not doing that but doesn’t work, I use this approach. Alhamdulillah, so far so good.
It is said that, you can use this method for almost every problem that you have dengan your child. Provided, kena sabar, & do it dengan penuh kasih sayang. Mothering job needs a lot of patience kan.
If your toddler has a ‘hard’ behaviour, maybe you can try this too.
Or, have you practice this? Mind to share your experience?
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