Co-Sleeping

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this is to answer aunty intan’s

tag.

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we can’t comply the requirement lah since we don’t have baby cot. we co-sleep! and i’m not going to share my bed’s picture here. hehe. secret place tuuuu!

actually, we wanted to buy a baby cot, or playpen, since 98.9% of our frens bought cribs for their babies. we planned to buy it earlier then, but for the budget’s sake, we defer it until we’re back to Miri. so since birth, Hafiy was co-sleep with Mommy.

back to Miri, i was interested no more to have any baby cot. we were very comfortable to sleep on the same bed. you know what, it is very easy for night feeding. and this is part of attachment parenting, where the baby sleep soundly in the loving arm of the mother. and you know what, it gives extra time to me and my baby to spend together, after long working hours.

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i heard many negative feedback about co-sleeping, like:

  • baby will not independent
  • increase risk of SID
  • mom roll over the baby
  • baby roll over and fall from bed
  • baby don’t wanna leave parents’ bed
  • baby cannot sleep without mother
  • etc.
yes, co-sleeping has its pro and cons. in fact, everything has pro and cons and its depend on us how to reduce the cons and how to optimize the pro, if we choose to do it.

reduce the risk of co-sleeping by:

  • don’t use heavy blanket i.e. comforter until the baby is older enough
  • if possible, don’t use blanket
  • put pillow away from baby
  • don’t sleep with other toddlers 😀
  • put a barrier i.e. bantal peluk if you’re too tired
about the dependency, or the difficult transition to their own room later, i don’t think it’s a problem. according to Dr. Sears, co-sleeping gives the child of overall feeling of well-being and confidence. and info from babycentre says “some people believe that babies who co-sleep with their parents are more independent, more outgoing, and more confident as children. As adults, they have higher self-esteem, better stress-management skills, and are more comfortable with intimacy than adults who slept alone as babies”.

and yes, Hafiy really can’t sleep without Mommy. he needs the cik nen and sometimes want to sleep on Mommy’s chest. some look at this as ‘letihla maknye kalo nak tido kene macam tu je’.i saw he slept with others, he doesn’t need those things, only with me. and i don’t feel ‘susah’ to put my baby to sleep on my chest or my arm. it won’t be long, isn’t it? i really cherish this moment. when he becomes a big brother or when he is big enough, he won’t sleep on my chest anymore. even sometimes, even if he is in deep sleep, i put him on my chest, to make me sleep plak 😀

is that why we choose co-sleeping? actually, we don’t need any good reason to co-sleep, cos our WHY is only because – to save our $$$$ 😀

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16 responses to “Co-Sleeping”

  1. Lan0stZz Avatar
    Lan0stZz

    well i have the baby cot but the baby still sleeps with me on the same bed. The ONLY reason is that i x larat nak angkat my baby up from the cot to my bed for nursing session at night time and i just adore the fact that i wake up everyday with my munckin’s lil face infront of me. Nikmat! :):)

  2. Babe Avatar
    Babe

    kalaulah kau tulis entri ni awal seminggu:)

    sebab

    I wnet to Jakarta, playpen MURAH GILER OK!! less than 50, back in KL aku dah tengok sampai 200! even ebay UK pun murah lagi. Brand Fisher Price lagi.

    Tapi tgk gaya Hafiy encem pun dah makin membesar sikit lama dah boring dgn playpen kejadah ni

    aku suka blog ko sebab parenting styla ko flexible dan ikut keperluan. Tak manjakan anak sgt. Baguih hang ni:)

  3. jua Avatar
    jua

    i pun co-sleeping gn faris.

    yg bagusnya.. anak, ibu n bapak mmg rapat n manja jek kasih sayangnya.

    yg tak bagusnya..
    utk faris – sampai skang mmg xsuka nak tdo dlm coat. kalo dpt tdo pun tak sampai 2jam. jd susa nak train tuk tdo sdiri nnt.

    masalahnya, mama dia pun malas n tak larat nak angkat faris bila nursing. sedap lg nursing sambil berbaring. terus terlelap skali.

  4. mami Hafiy Avatar
    mami Hafiy

    Lan0stZz
    that’s explain a lot..

    kalo i jadi u pon mmg xde nk cot-cot dah with the 10kg+ baby. mak aih sungguh semangat!

    tp mmg betul syokkan pagi2 bgn tgk muka dia 😀

    tp bdk ni pagi2 dia bgn dlu ketuk2 kita suh bgn huhu.

    Babe
    wah gila less than 50! kalo tau awal2 mmg haku order je ni hahaha.

    aaa betul mamat ni mmg cepat boring. skg pon dia dah boring nenen baring, dia nk duk meniarap plak kat tepi aku.

    aku tak manjakan anak tp dia pulak yg memanjakan diri sendiri. adoi.. kalo aku ada kat umah & dia xtido, nk makan cekedis pon xbole 😛

    weh bila nak add aku masuk blog ko aku nk tgk anak sedara ko tu laaaa!

    jua
    ya mmg betul budak2 ini sangat manja kn?

    hafiy pon xmo tido sendiri tp nape i xrisau ek? +ve je nanti dia akan ok. huhu. +ve sungguh ibu ini huhu.

  5. mamadanish Avatar
    mamadanish

    i ada beli playpen…tapi ipun tak larat nak angkat my bb mlm nak bfd..

    End up play pan tu jadi mcm stor..segala toys danish dalam tu..hahaha

  6. mama ryan Avatar
    mama ryan

    i pun kene tagged benda nie jugak…

    hmmm…. nnt la.. i ngomel2 kat blog.. my case pun <> sama je mcm u..

    tp xde la i cite mcm ur style nie, informative.. mine, merapu2 je..

    hu hu…

  7. mommylyssa Avatar
    mommylyssa

    our babycot skrg ni pun jadi perhiasan jer… lagi senang co-sleep…

  8. suealeen Avatar
    suealeen

    tiga2 co-sleeping.. but for sure dari awal tak pernah beli katil. tido style jepun je… 37 degree x 5 orang = 185… hahaha… bahangnya bukan main lagi…

    pro – close bond…
    con – tak nak tido bilik sendiri…

    entah la sampai bila nak tido sesama ni…

  9. ida Avatar
    ida

    Kami pun co-sleep jgk. Playpen ada, opis abahnya kasi present tp teramat jarang guna. One day maybe, bila dah tak payah nk night feeding. Bila tu gamaknya???

    So far alhamdulillah belum pernah tertindih Nazhan, cuma ibu ‘kesempitan’ dihimpit abah yg tidoq tak ingat apa and Nazhan yg suka conquer space ibu.

    Hafiy ni maybe type yg sangat pandai cari peluang ni. Asal ada mami dia, dia tak kasi chance. Actually, lepak2 aja time mami not around.

  10. suealeen Avatar
    suealeen

    oh ye.. babycot/playpen ada guna bila dia ada adik beradik yang lain yang tengah lasak ya amat….

  11. Fid Avatar
    Fid

    hohoho
    akif le ni kalau tido bkn mummy aja kena ada daddy pun kena ada….macam mana tuh?
    layannn

  12. mami hafiy Avatar
    mami hafiy

    MAMADANISH,
    mungkin adat bf moms, playpen jd tmpt smpn brg hahaha.

    MAMA RYAN,
    ngomel jgn xngomel.

    mana de merapu2, it’s just a way 2be creative kn hehe

    MOMMYLYSSA,
    vote for co-sleep!

    K SUE,
    hahaha. mcm adik badik sy… sy co-sleep smpai darjah 3. huhu. 4 budak+2 org tua ats 1 katil. huhu.

    IDA,
    ibu+abah+nazhan sume kecik2 xkan tertindih2 punye huhu.

    hafiy mmg pandai amik kesempatan. mami xde dia relek je ngan bibik.

    K SUE,
    itu guna dia jadi kurungan ye kak. hehe.

    K FID,
    hohoho. extreme nih akif ni 😛

  13. wan Avatar
    wan

    samalaa.. beli playpen jadi tempat simpan mainan fahim jek.

    anyway, satu lagi kekurangan co-sleeping ialah ibu dan papa makin ‘menjauh’ even satu bed.

    huhu dah lah fahim melasak tak ingat dunia.. tidur elok vertical bangun tidur dan horizontal

    😛

  14. mami hafiy Avatar
    mami hafiy

    MAMA FAHIM,
    hahahahahhaha itu sgt betul!
    co-sleep, salah satu cara family planning ape 😛

  15. mado_ct Avatar
    mado_ct

    Ala lina..tkyah la baby cot ni..kalau anak sorang. Tapi kalau anak 2 boleh gak pk kot. Akak pun beli baby cot masa baby 2nd lahir. Itupun untuk siang-siang jer sebab takut abangnyer langgar dengan kereta ke, lorry ke, bulldozer ke. malam2 still tido peluk mama. Anak yang first sejak ada adik, mula-mula tido dengan abah tapi sekarang dah pandai tido katil asing walaupun satu bilik. Kalau mood baik awal2 lagi dah panjat katil sendiri kalau mood tak baik, tido dulu dengan abah, bila dah lena abah letakkan kat bed dia.

  16. The Queen Bee Avatar
    The Queen Bee

    i sejak dua menjak ni my baby experiencing separation anxiety and i have to co-sleep with him.

    And dah 2 kali dahh dia jatuh katil. huaa.walauu tinggi tembok bantal ku buat. huhu.

    tp mlm nih i taruk blk dlm katil dia. kekeek..

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